Writing sympathy messages can be difficult but they don't have to be overly complicated. We asked our charity partner Sue Ryder
for some tips.
Sometimes keeping it simple is best:
"We’re thinking of you at this difficult time and sending you a big hug and lots of love."
"I don’t really know what to say, but I want you to know that I am thinking about you at this
"I am so sorry for the loss you are experiencing with this bereavement. I’ll touch base with
you in a couple of weeks and when you’re ready let’s meet up."
Alternatively, you could be more personal in your message.
"We are so sorry to hear about [your relative description/name]. They were such an
incredible person and we will never forget [insert a memory or anecdote]."
"I’m really sorry to hear about [your relative description/name]. Please know that we’re all
thinking of you and if there’s anything you need - [how you can help e.g. the school run, a
meal being dropped round, walking the dog or popping out for a coffee], we are only a text
or a phone call away."
"I am so sorry for your loss. [He/She/They] filled a room with laughter and they will be so
"We are so sorry for your loss. We will touch base with you in a couple of weeks and when
you’re ready, let’s meet up and go to [their favourite place]."
If you need a little more help, here's a very useful blog on the topic from the Sue Ryder website